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The Confident Girl: Is Free

The Confident Girl: Is Free

Written by Chelsea Tanamachi

When I think about the word “confident” many attributes come to mind. A few of those would be strong, poised, and fearless. Another would be free

There’s something compelling about the thought of freedom. We may all have our own connotations about that word, and what it means for me may mean something completely different for you altogether, but nonetheless, we both desire it. No one wakes up and desperately desires to live behind bars for the rest of their life, or to be hindered in social or political settings, or to be enslaved to sin and shame.

While none of us desires that, it is the way some of us are living. Whether it is a sin you cannot gain control over, depression that seems to suck the warmth and life out of every good thing, a tempered tongue, a bad attitude, financial stress, or shame from your past, it seems there is always something plaguing us. 

There is good news for us! 


Jesus walked in righteousness. His life was completely without sin. But the Scriptures say he was tempted, just as we are. In Matthew 4:1-11, Jesus is led by the Holy Spirit into the desert to be tempted by the devil. I mean....that’s wild. Alone in the desert, Jesus and the devil. And again, Hebrews 4:15 says, “For we do not have a high priest who is unable to sympathize with our weaknesses, but one who in every respect has been tempted as we are, yet without sin.” 

The good news is good in so many ways! Have you ever shared something deep or personal with a friend, looking for advice or wisdom, and they’ve never been through anything like you’re going through? I have. It’s awkward watching them grasp for words to string together, trying to relate but in reality, they can’t. The best advice you can be given is to look to Christ, to consider Him in your struggle and suffering. Consider the fact that Jesus can relate. 

He was tempted too. 

He was stressed out too. 

He got angry (righteously, not sinfully because someone cut him off on their donkey on the road). 

He felt societal pressures.


Jesus lived perfectly without sin, but it doesn’t mean He never felt what we feel. We can rejoice because He is able to sympathize! Jesus endured, and so can we. The writer of Hebrews uses the word “endure,” or some form of it, three times in the first 3 verses of chapter 12, which happens to be only two sentences. I guess he meant it. 

“Therefore, since we are surrounded by so great a cloud of witnesses, let us also lay aside every weight, and sin which clings so closely, and let us run with endurance the race that is set before us, looking to Jesus, the founder and perfecter of our faith, who for the joy that was set before him endured the cross, despising the shame, and is seated at the right hand of the throne of God. Consider him who endured from sinners such hostility against himself, so that you may not grow weary or faint hearted.”

Whatever you’re carrying, you can look to Jesus. He died so that we may be free. 

“Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.” Matthew 11:28-29

There is hope for us in Jesus. Since He endured before us, we can endure. We have hope because He is with us, He is for us, and He is coming again.

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