The Confident Girl Reads: For Women Only
The book For Women Only by Shaunti Feldhahn is a book that seeks to explain the major differences between men and women based on surveys done all over the country. Shaunti and her husband did extensive research that show the inner thought life of men. This book single handedly changed my view of relationships and of men in general. The book has its root's in a biblical perspective but makes it's arguments using purely significant evidence found through research rather than personal opinion.
One of the significant findings in this book is that men desire respect over love. This thought changed so much about the way I relate to all men in my life, not just my significant other. Shaunti's main point with this book was to help explain the differences between men and women in a way that was accessible and useful for all people.
Shanty says, "The man in your life carries important feelings so deep inside he barely knows they’re there, much less how to talk about them. Yet your man genuinely wants you to “get” him—to understand his inner life, to know his fears and needs, to hear what he wishes he could tell you."
Her book covers subjects like:
• Why your respect means more to him than your love.
• How he feels deep inside about his role as provider.
• What it means for a man to be so visually “wired.”
• Why sex for him is primarily emotional, not physical.
• What he most wishes he could say to you.
There is an accompanying book for men by Shaunti's husband called For Men Only that seeks to offer the same information, but instead to men. It is also helpful to read. I would recommend couples go through these books together and point out what is important to them. This can be very beneficial for couples of all ages!
If you've been feeling confused by the guy in your life, or if you just seek to understand the opposite sex better, I HIGHLY recommend reading this book. It will change the way you view men and women!
Let me know what you think! I hope you're encouraged by this book just as I was.